I laugh every time I hear it: Take Time For You. These people are suggesting that I take a break from my mom life and relax. That sounds wonderful and in a perfect world it would happen multiple times a day, but I can’t seem to even find the time for it to happen once a day. ONCE. I just want a few minutes of peace, quiet, and where the only person I am thinking about is ME. A few moments when I feel perfectly relaxed and calm. That might be too good to be true but these well meaning people in our lives are right. We have to take time, even just a few minutes, to ourselves every day. I know it’s hard but here are my Tips For Taking Time Out For Moms.
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When we neglect ourselves we can’t fully take care of our loved ones. I know, we’ve all heard it and you’re probably thinking ‘easier said than done’. But it’s TRUE! I have moments of severe anxiety. If I don’t take some time for myself at least once in a while, it builds up. And up. And up. Until I hit an exhaustion level that literally turns into an explosion and then into a mushy mess. Then I’m a wreck for the rest of the day.
Who am I helping by doing this? Those days leading up to the eruption I may seem to be ‘holding it all together’, but is it worth it if I crash at the end? Nope.
I finally realized that having a few moments to myself is not a luxury, it’s a requirement. I MUST give myself time to reset, every day. Even multiple times a day, if I need it. This reset will help you deal with stress better, have more level emotions, helps with a long term inner peace, and even can improve your confidence.
In order to be the best moms we can be, we need at least a few minutes. I’m not talking about going to the bathroom alone or hiding in the pantry with a candy bar. Although those times can be quiet and may I even say peaceful, we need more purposeful, meaningful time to ourselves.
So now we know why it’s time to figure out how. Again, I know, ‘easier said than done’. But take a moment and think. What is something you love doing when no one else is around. Is it reading? Taking a bath? Working out? Make sure you are doing something that you feel good about, not something that makes you cringe or something that you are ‘supposed’ to be doing.
If it helps you feel better try one of these:
- Reading: Read something that you love. It doesn’t have to be a parenting book, unless you truley love reading parenting books.
- Writing: A journal, short stories, etc.
- Exercise: Go on a walk, do yoga, have a dance party in your underwear. Just move!
- Take a bath
- Take a really long shower
- Have your own mini spa: Mani & Pedi, face mask,
- Create a space that is specifically for you and just be there.
- Do something creative: a craft, adult coloring book, sing
- Talk to a good friend
- Go to Target by yourself (or your favorite store)
- Turn the lights off, put headphones in and listen to calming music.
- Take A Nap
Even Superman had downtime, give yourself a break!
I know you don’t need convincing that you need ‘me time’. It’s doing it that is hard. I understand. But like I said, it doesn’t have to be an all day event (wouldn’t that be nice). Take as much time as you can each day, even if it is literally only 5 minutes. Do something for YOU! Try it for a week and see how much better you feel. It helps!